Wars and threat of war may increasingly be on the minds of many, but what about war zones happening in marriages eg those small disagreements turning into an all-out war of words. Alex and Stephen Kendrick wrote that: “Many marriages consist of two people who have become enemies. Consider this: It’s hard to hate someone you’re praying for. Your heart simply won’t allow it. It’s also hard to sling mud on a person who is praying for you. Does your marriage break out in all-out combat on a consistent basis? Try bombing your battles with prayer instead of anger. It brings amazingly effective peace talks to the conflict. But don’t just pray for your imperfect spouse before or after the battle. Pray with him or her during the battle. It’s hard to launch scud missiles when you’re on your knees praying for each other.”
A Good Example of Fighting with Prayer
Dr David Clarke tells of a couple that had a deeply troubled marriage. In his book, ‘A Marriage After God’s Own Heart’ he said, “The situation looked grim.” However, he advised them to pray about their marriage together that week and come back to see him.
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The questions we want to ask you as you step into this New Year are:
Do you both feel good about the direction your marriage is headed right now?
What is the present state of your marital union?
You might think that things are going along good between you or really bad. But how about your spouse; does he or she feel the same way?
You might think you know the answer to this, but you may not. That’s what we’ve found. Many spouses are absolutely surprised when they actually talk to their spouse about this matter. Their answers are different than we thought they would be.
As we head deeper into this New Year, it’s a great time to re-evaluate and change out a few things that didn’t work out so well for us in the past. Why should we drag that, which isn’t working well into a brand new year? Why not work together on finding new way of approaching troublesome matters? Isn’t that all a part of marrying? It’s about working to marry your approaches to your life together, so it works better for both of you and for your […] Read More
There have been so many acts of kindness reported on during the last couple of years when many lives have been impacted by Government interventions aimed at helping prevent the spread of corona virus. Focussing on this goodness is able to lift the spirits at this challenging time rather than becoming fearful or depressed.
Author Russ Harris asks: ‘What are simple ways to look after yourself, those you live with, and those you can realistically help? What kind, caring, supportive deeds you can do?
Can you say some kind words to someone in distress – in person or via a phone call or text
What are kind, caring ways of contributing to the wellbeing of your community?
What can you say and do that will enable you to look back in years to come and feel proud of your response? ‘
Tony Robbins – author and life & business strategist writes:
‘Fear cannot coexist with positive emotions. You cannot feel both scared and joyful, or afraid and peaceful. You can’t feel fear and gratitude at the same time, either – but you can replace one with the other. When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears. You shift your focus from […] Read More
Fawn Weaver said that the beauty of marriage is not always seen from the beginning… but rather as the love grows and developes over time. Regrettably some have taken this beauty of marriage and turned it into a system of control over their spouse.
“COVID has created stresses on even the best relationships, let alone ones where there’s control and abuse,” one former abuser said “But it’s never OK to make your partner the object of your frustrations.” He urges any man who feels anger rising inside of them to seek immediate help from one of the many help-lines available. Being abused is never the fault of the recipient, and help should be sought.
According to the Federal Government’s report on Family, Domestic and Sexual Violence in Australia 2019:
Almost 1 in 4 (23%) women and 1 in 6 (16%) men have experienced emotional abuse from a current or previous partner since the age of 15. Almost 1 in 6 women (17%) and 1 in 16 men have experienced physical or sexual violence by a current or previous partner since the age of 15.’
Claudia & Dave Arp write: ” Let’s get right to the heart of the matter. How committed are you to your spouse and to your marriage? Is it a commitment of the heart?
Heart commitment is more that just sticking together. Many couples get stuck in a dull, stagnant marriage and stay in the marriage because of constraint – not because of a heart commitment. A heart commitment is choosing to making your relationship a priority – to put the other first. It’s making your marriage an oasis, a place of safety, comfort and refuge from the pressures of our high stress world.
How can you keep the heart of your marriage growing and healthy? Here are a few thoughts to consider. Have your very own Heart Commitment Date and talk about:
What are some of the positives about our relationship?
What changes do we need to make to energize our marriage and keep it fresh and growing?
What do we want our marriage to look like in 10 years? In 25 years?
What resources do we have for nurturing our relationship? (Such as time, health, humour, friends, prayer etc.)
Lives continue to be challenged by the manner in which various aspects of Covid19 have affected every day life. Dr. Laura Markham in her article, “The Family That Plays Together” wrote: “Given how hard life can be at times, my opinion is that we need to seize all the joy, silliness, fun and humor we can get.”
“Dads4Kids” have launched a month of FUN for Dads and their kids throughout the month of November. This is such a great idea for all family members to adopt – not just for November, but for the remainder of this year.
Why not make this not just a Date Challenge, but a Challenge for all the family, to have FUN together – especially over the summer holidays.
PLAY IS NOT AN OPTION
From the infectious fun of side-splitting laughter to the exuberance of an impromptu pillow fight, infusing a spirit of joy and playfulness into your home nurtures your family like little else says Dr. Laura Markham
Playing together is an almost magical way to build connection. Not surprising, since when we laugh, our body releases oxytocin into our systems. So when you’re laughing with someone, you’re […] Read More