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November 2021

There have been so many acts of kindness reported on during the last couple of years when many lives have been impacted by Government interventions aimed at helping prevent the spread of corona virus. Focussing on this goodness is able to lift the spirits at this challenging time rather than becoming fearful or depressed.

Author Russ Harris asks: ‘What are simple ways to look after yourself, those you live with, and those you can realistically help? What kind, caring, supportive deeds you can do?
Can you say some kind words to someone in distress – in person or via a phone call or text
message?
What are kind, caring ways of contributing to the wellbeing of your community?
What can you say and do that will enable you to look back in years to come and feel proud of your response? ‘

Tony Robbins – author and life & business strategist writes:

‘Fear cannot coexist with positive emotions. You cannot feel both scared and joyful, or afraid and peaceful. You can’t feel fear and gratitude at the same time, either – but you can replace one with the other. When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears. You shift your focus from […] Read More

5th November 2021|

August 2021

Fawn Weaver said that the beauty of marriage is not always seen from the beginning… but rather as the love grows and developes over time. Regrettably some have taken this beauty of marriage and turned it into a system of control over their spouse.

“COVID has created stresses on even the best relationships, let alone ones where there’s control and abuse,” one former abuser said “But it’s never OK to make your partner the object of your frustrations.” He urges any man who feels anger rising inside of them to seek immediate help from one of the many help-lines available. Being abused is never the fault of the recipient, and help should be sought.

According to the Federal Government’s report on Family, Domestic and Sexual Violence in Australia 2019:
Almost 1 in 4 (23%) women and 1 in 6 (16%) men have experienced emotional abuse from a current or previous partner since the age of 15. Almost 1 in 6 women (17%) and 1 in 16 men have experienced physical or sexual violence by a current or previous partner since the age of 15.’

We should all be horrified by these statistics.

Some of this control occurs as a result of […] Read More

7th August 2021|

May 2021

Claudia & Dave Arp write: ” Let’s get right to the heart of the matter. How committed are you to your spouse and to your marriage? Is it a commitment of the heart?
Heart commitment is more that just sticking together. Many couples get stuck in a dull, stagnant marriage and stay in the marriage because of constraint – not because of a heart commitment. A heart commitment is choosing to making your relationship a priority – to put the other first. It’s making your marriage an oasis, a place of safety, comfort and refuge from the pressures of our high stress world.
How can you keep the heart of your marriage growing and healthy? Here are a few thoughts to consider. Have your very own Heart Commitment Date and talk about:

  • What are some of the positives about our relationship?
  • What changes do we need to make to energize our marriage and keep it fresh and growing?
  • What do we want our marriage to look like in 10 years? In 25 years?
  • What resources do we have for nurturing our relationship? (Such as time, health, humour, friends, prayer etc.)
  • What could I do today to express my […] Read More
13th May 2021|

November 2020

Lives continue to be challenged by the manner in which various aspects of Covid19 have affected every day life. Dr. Laura Markham in her article, “The Family That Plays Together” wrote: “Given how hard life can be at times, my opinion is that we need to seize all the joy, silliness, fun and humor we can get.”

Dads4Kids” have launched a month of FUN for Dads and their kids throughout the month of November. This is such a great idea for all family members to adopt – not just for November, but for the remainder of this year.

Why not make this not just a Date Challenge, but a Challenge for all the family, to have FUN together – especially over the summer holidays.


PLAY IS NOT AN OPTION

From the infectious fun of side-splitting laughter to the exuberance of an impromptu pillow fight, infusing a spirit of joy and playfulness into your home nurtures your family like little else says Dr. Laura Markham

Playing together is an almost magical way to build connection. Not surprising, since when we laugh, our body releases oxytocin into our systems. So when you’re laughing with someone, you’re […] Read More

10th November 2020|

August 2020

Many Australians will be observing Father’s Day on the first Sunday in September. It is an opportunity for people to show their appreciation for and to honour fathers and father figures. Father figures may include stepfathers, fathers-in-law, guardians (eg. foster parents), and family friends. Why not make it a mini celebration and fun.

During the pandemic, many couples may have been experiencing new and unexplored sides of their spouse and marriage as they navigated the many layers of increased stressors and the unprecedented situation they lived in. The increased time together is a unique opportunity for marriage to grow and thrive through the challenges couples are encountering together. Applying Dr Gary Chapman’s five love languages to daily living will help any marriage and family to thrive during the many challenges of staying at home during the pandemic.

There will inevitably be times of conflict. Lily Sloane, a licensed marriage and family therapist says: “If we understand where our partners are coming from, it’s easier to muster compassion for them in moments of conflict, rather than feeling defensive or adversarial. Relationship this way — as a partnership between two broken people whose individual fears and insecurities and ways of […] Read More

4th August 2020|

May 2020

“Show us a marriage that is faltering, and we’ll show you a marriage where the fun is gone. And where the fun is gone, there is a good chance they don’t date their mate! Dating is something they did before they got married. It’s not in their marriage vocabulary today.” (Drs David and Jan Stoop).

Just because the normal practice for many is to equate ‘dating’ with going out to a restaurant , show etc does not mean that ‘dating’ has to be put on hold for now. Why not bring out those board games and challenge each other (or the family, if they are at home) to a game, or gaze at the stars together, or dream big, exciting dreams together, or share funny stories…. and have more regular ‘dates’ having fun with your spouse.


SOME MORE IDEAS TO INSPIRE ROMANCE & FUN

  1.  Go on a Youtube laugh tour.
  2. Have an indoor picnic when you are alone and it’s dark outside; soften the lights.
  3. Look into your spouse’s eyes with love, and smile.
  4. Call your spouse during the day and tell them something you love about them(even if they are just in another room […] Read More
4th May 2020|
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